And This Is When You Will Save Yourself

“Nobody will protect you from your suffering. You can’t cry it away or eat it away or starve it away or walk it away or punch...

The Truth About Changing Your Life Is That It Is Often Means Doing Less,...

The beginning of a self-transformation requires action, but the end of it requires something deeper, something harder, something you’ve probably never realized before. While doing more will...

Healing Is Not Just Disregarding Everyone Else’s Needs In Favor Of Your Own

There is so much counterproductive advice circulating about what emotional healing is. So many of us break under the weight of other people’s expectations. We string ourselves...

How To Let Go Of Someone Who Has Already Let Go Of You

Take a deep breath. Count to three. Exhale. Sometimes it’s hard to let people go. However, sometimes we are left with no other choice. The reasons are...

It’s Time I Said Goodbye To You

I was driving to work  and saw how much the leaves had begun to change. Their vibrant reds and oranges, scattered on the ground and hanging...

The Honest Truth About What Happens After You Free Yourself From An Almost Relationship

When you’re in an almost relationship, you’re in a sense, tied down. You’re committed. You see a future. You don’t want to date anyone else. So...

All Of The Things Which I Do Not Miss

Cigarette smoke. That nicotine-stained thumb. Your second-hand mouth. The purple staining the skin under your eyes. How I swore the violet would stain my fingers if...

The Harsh Truth About Healing That They Will Never Tell You In Therapy

What they don’t tell you about healing is that it isn’t peaceful. What they don’t tell you is that healing is not a linear progression in which...

The Psychological Trick That Will Help You Release Old Experiences For Good

Just because an experience has ended doesn’t mean it’s over. We store unfinished and unresolved emotional experiences within our bodies. Cognitively, we often find that we are...

You Do Not Have To Give Them Another Chance

I know that there is a part of you that is thinking about giving you past relationship another chance. It makes sense to want to justify trying...

Let Today Be The Day You Stop Lying To Yourself

The most destructive lies aren’t the ones told to us — they’re the ones we tell ourselves. Those lies we repeat quietly to convince ourselves that...

You Cannot Save Everyone, Nor Are You Meant To

The truth about wounded healers is that the person they most want to save is really just themselves. The truth about every healer is that they were,...

Six Things To Remember When It’s Time To Actually Move On

One, he’s gone. He’s not coming back. He is now a wind passing to your window, forcing you to remember the smell of his breath and the...

This Is Me Saying Goodbye To Modern Dating

This is me saying goodbye to modern dating; this is me saying goodbye to that rush of adrenaline when someone decides to swipe right on my...

Read This If You Are Afraid Of Healing

Healing is ugly. Healing is painful. There’s no other way to put it. Healing means confronting a heartbreak, head on, and feeling the pain and the...

Stop Rushing The Timing Of Your Life, You Do Not Have To Accomplish Everything...

It is important to set deadlines for your dreams. It’s not just important, it’s crucial. It’s the difference between ideas and goals, hopes and plans. You have to...

A Story About Your Ex Becoming Your Neighbor In Brooklyn

Not only the same city, but the same borough of New York: Williamsburg, Brooklyn. A few months ago, I told my boyfriend (who also happened to be...

Why Each Zodiac Sign Has Trouble Healing From Heartache 

Aries: March 21 – April 19th You refuse to admit losing this person has been bothering you. You keep pretending everything is perfectly fine. Taurus: April 20th –...

This Is How You Start To Let Go, Even If You Don’t Feel Like...

You cannot force yourself to let go, no matter how much you know you want to. You cannot force something out of your brain space, no matter...

A Short List Of Things I Lost When I Wasn’t Paying Attention

Any number of circumstances can make us lose sight of things which are important, or lose parts of ourselves without even realizing, not until it’s too...

Maybe You’ll Never Be The Same After An Abusive Relationship And Maybe That’s Okay

Trigger Warning Hiding my favorite benzodiazepines – Xanax and Klonopin – in lipstick tubes and vitamin bottles, the false calm they’d bestow upon me and then the...

It’s Hard To Heal When You See The Person Who Hurt You Every Single...

It’s hard to heal when you exist in the same space as the person who hurt you. It’s hard to put your love for them in...

Some People Aren’t Meant To Last Forever (So Love Them While They’re Here)

When it comes to relationships and falling in love, we honestly put far too much pressure on ourselves. We think of the idea of falling in...

This Is How They’ll Heal Your Heart Based On Their Zodiac Sign

Aries: March 21st-April 19th: They will make you forget how boring and plain the world can be. Aries are known to be bold, excitable, and adventurous. They...

Maybe Right Now Your Journey Isn’t About Love

Maybe right now, your journey isn’t about love. Maybe right now, your journey is about being alone. Maybe this is the season you are being challenged —...

Healing Yourself Is The Most Uncomfortable, Disruptive, Important Thing You Will Ever Do

Healing your mind is not the same thing as healing your body. When you’re wounded, you often go through a progressive,  linear repair. You get better,...

Self-Love Is The Best Form Of Healing

Self-love is the best remedy. It’s the best form of healing. Self-love helps you move on with ease when you truly look back on certain experiences...

Forget That Thing You Heard About Love Having To Hurt Sometimes

honey, i get it. no one’s ever kissed you quite like that, and when he touches you, everything’s a little brighter, leaves aren’t just green, but about...

Every Useful Thing My Therapist Has Ever Told Me

1.    It’s okay to disappoint your parents. It’s not okay to disappoint yourself. 2.    Don’t believe everything you read in self-help books. They’re simply guidelines, not the map to...

Forgive Yourself For Struggling With An Unclear Mind

Lately, more than half of the time, her mind is half functioning to its fullest degree. Her thoughts mostly consist of, “Why does my brain feel...

This Is Grief | Thought Catalog

this is grief. staring. at the sea. out the window. at the words you mean to read. at the wall. at the back of your eyes as...

This Is Me Finally Learning To Unlove You

It’s been months since you left me. The first time, at least. Since then you’ve come in and out of my life like a revolving door...

Life Will Be Good To You Soon, I Promise

One morning, one day very soon, you will wake up with that warm, cozy feeling deep down in the pit of your stomach; that nearly perfect,...

You Will Find These Words When You Need To

Lean in closely to the words you are about to read. It is highly possible at least one sentence you need to see. Your heart will feel...

Have Faith—There Is A Plan For All Of This

Have faith, there is a plan for all of this. You might feel the lowest you’ve ever felt. You may feel like the world is crashing down....

The Day You Stop Waiting For Them To Come Back Is The Day You...

They are not coming back. And the sooner you accept this, the quicker you will be able to gather the broken pieces of your heart and...

Your Pain Matters | Thought Catalog

Your trauma is valid. Even if other people have experienced “worse.” Even if someone else who went through the same experience doesn’t feel debilitated by it. Even if it...

This Is What It Means To Heal Completely, Because It’s Not About Going Back...

When something scares us but we never get over that fear, we become traumatized. When we’re traumatized, our lives start reflecting that. We begin restricting and isolating....

Forgive yourself for what happened…

Forgive yourself for what happened. For the mistakes you made. For not showing up the way up the way you needed to. For not being the...

Please, Don’t Go Through The Pain All By Yourself

I posted a carefully edited black and white photo on Instagram the other day of me smiling and carefree, holding my puppy in my arms. The...