A Letter From Your Scorpio Ex-Girlfriend

so you found someone. found her when you were still waking up in the middle of the night kissing my face, actually. would you run back...

What If I’m Actually The Bad Friend?

By Liz Rae Updated September 29, 2020 By Liz Rae Updated September 29, 2020 I message you for the hundredth time. My message remains left unread. I wait,...

Maybe You Don’t Need A Reinvention, Maybe You Just Need To Be A Little...

Maybe you don’t need a reinvention. Maybe you don’t need to change your life. Maybe you are not seven steps, a move, a job, a goal, a relationship...

10 Things You Will Start To Feel When A Big Life Change Is Around...

By Brianna Wiest Updated August 21, 2020 Photo by Jamie Fenn on Unsplash By Brianna Wiest Updated August 21, 2020 Photo by Jamie Fenn on Unsplash Sometimes when our lives are about...

8 Things To Measure Your Progress By That Aren’t Just Productivity

Progress is not just steady forward movement. It’s also the willingness to slow down, take stock, ground, uproot, shift, change, and move forward in a way that’s...

Why You Need To Stop Letting Other People Determine Your Self-Worth

When you look at the world, you see the world. You have a new experience of the world each day, constantly formulating and reformulating perspectives and opinions,...

7 Signs You’re Growing As A Person, Even If It Doesn’t Feel Like You...

Sometimes, growth is subtle. Often, we only see it clearly in retrospect. Though we often assume that our growth will be completely evident to us, it’s...

8 Signs You’ve Met Someone Who Is Supposed To Be In Your Life Forever

While it’s impossible to say definitively whether or not someone will walk by your side for the rest of your life, often, there are a few...

On Women Who Hate Cats But Love Men With Cats

When FM first told me that he wanted to adopt a cat, I groaned. Why could it not have been a dog? I knew why. He was religious...

You Have To Make The Most Of The Chances Life Gives To You

We often get paralyzed in the concept of is this right? Should I wait? Is there anything better? Should I settle? How do I know if...

The Uncomfortable Truth About Learning To Love Your New Self After Coming Out

I’ve lived my life in two parts: before I realized I was gay and after. I have separated these parts of my life so harshly that I’ve...

This Is The Kind Of Sex You Deserve

This is not going to be that essay. I’m not going to write some flowery, romantic idealization of what sex “should” be. I’m not going to expound...

My ‘Mrs. America’ Knowledge Gap: Not Just A Period Piece, How The ERA Is...

This essay started out as a Facebook post. When I learn things, when I obtain information I am excited about or surprised by that moves me, my...

Not Everybody Is Going To Grow—It’s Not Your Job To Force Them

When you’re young, your path in life is set. You are not that much different than most people you know. You attend the same schools, you move from...

The Key To Being Captivating

In the halcyon pre-COVID era — which was either a generation ago, or last year, as time’s dissolved into a hazy suspension of eternity and ephemera...

30 Impactful Lessons I Hope You Learn In Your Twenties

I think we “grow up” in our twenties. We work on becoming (and figuring out) who we want to be. And as we move through these...

This Is The Most Underrated Quality Of Each Zodiac Sign

Aries: You’re a huge romantic Aries are generally associated with energy and childlike enthusiasm, and a fiery spirit. However, most people tend not to realize how much...

The Strange Silver Lining Of Everything Going Wrong At Once

There is a sublime comfort when we find the sun setting on the world all at once. At last, the sun is not just setting on us...

These Are The Stories We Will Tell About 2020

When we are asked about this time, we will tell them about how our stovetops were always dirty, and how much we cooked. We will tell them...

This Is The Best Vs. The Worst Thing About Being Friends With Each Zodiac...

Aries Best: They are incredible at hyping you up. They have your back and will show up when you need them. They’re always the first to jump...

Hope Floats | Thought Catalog

There’s one of two ways this can go – The first is to drown in it. Oversaturated with information, statistics and studies, advisories, warnings, predictions, projections, and...

In This Time Of Darkness, Please Care More

In the United States, the coronavirus is spreading like wildfire, with no end in sight. And it’s dauntingly too late to take many of the lifesaving...

A Calming Reminder For Each Zodiac Sign

Aries: It’s okay to slow down. You don’t always have to be moving- you’re allowed to take a moment and breathe. Taurus: Wanting to be safe is...

There Is No Such Thing As Falling Behind, There Is Not Just One Way...

Here is a sentence that will either disrupt your worldview or free you, and probably both: Everybody is having the exact experience that they are meant to...

Read This When You Know What You Need To Heal, But Don’t Know How

If you know that you need to heal but don’t know where to begin, you will need to trust the process. You will need to trust the...

You Will Move On | Thought Catalog

I know that you can’t picture your life without them. It’s not a small thing, a tiny feeling to take lightly. I know that without them,...

Not Everyone Is Going To Heal The Way You Did, And They’re Not Supposed...

At this moment, everyone you know is having the exact experience that they need to have. This is hard to accept sometimes. When we see someone we love...

When You Have To Say Goodbye To The Person You Love

You knew this was going to be hard, but you didn’t know it would be this hard. Now that they are right in front of you,...

This Is How You Will Know If You’re Actually On The Wrong Path In...

Sometimes, it isn’t always clear that we are on the wrong path in life until we are too far down it to easily turn around. We have...

This Is The Year You Let Go Of Everything You Can’t Imagine Having In...

This is the year that you clear your path so that you can finally see the light on the horizon. This is the year that you stop...

I Couldn’t Fix You If I Tried

I think the temperature must have hovered around 45 and misty when you took my hand and laid it to your chest amidst a maze of...

To The Friends I Don’t See As Much But Still Think Of All The...

It used to be so much easier, didn’t it? The days where we were all in the same place. The times we took for granted, back...

You’re Meant To Heal What Hurts You, You’re Not Supposed To Live In Pain...

Pain is a normal part of life, but that doesn’t mean it’s a necessary part of life. Too many people live as though suffering will help them...

The Summer Of Swim | Thought Catalog

Maybe it started on June 28th, 2019. That’s when the kids began their first day of summer holidays. Anticipation melted off of them like an ice...

How A Trip To A Pediatric Burn Hospital Helped Me Heal Postpartum Anxiety

It was my turn to wake up with our son, but I was tired that Sunday morning, so we broke a lot of my rules. Still...

Keeping Plants — And Love — Alive

Everything I’m about to tell you about plants is likely wildly inaccurate. I’m not a botanist. I’m not even a great gardener. I’m a mediocre keeper...

This Year, Please Stop Fighting Battles You Can’t Win

Please stop fighting battles you cannot win. Please stop trying to shop your way into self-esteem. Please stop trying to convince people to love you when they...

I Hate You, Don’t Leave Me

I understand it now, why hurricanes are named after people. You blew into my life, a whirlwind of epic proportions. And in the middle of it...

Remember That Everything Will Feel Impossible Right Before A Huge Shift Takes Place

When we hit our breaking point and assume we are more lost than ever before, it’s not because everything has spontaneously gone wrong. The breakdown is not...

The Honest Truth Is That Good Relationships Don’t End, And Romanticizing The Past Is...

If you feel as though you cannot move on from the past, as though everything good is behind you, and as though you cannot understand why...

I Was A Living Heart-Eyed Emoji For You

The waitress asked, “Can I get you two anything else?” If only waitresses were genies who could grant wishes. From the start the menu read “crash and...

And This Is When You Will Save Yourself

“Nobody will protect you from your suffering. You can’t cry it away or eat it away or starve it away or walk it away or punch...

When You Start Showing Up Fully In Your Life, You Stop Caring About Who...

The way we see other people is often a reflection of how we see ourselves. In fact, it is our most extreme reactions to other people that...

Healing Is Not Just Disregarding Everyone Else’s Needs In Favor Of Your Own

There is so much counterproductive advice circulating about what emotional healing is. So many of us break under the weight of other people’s expectations. We string ourselves...

Me, Him, And A Few Other Things I’m Admittedly Afraid Of

I stopped taking Xanax some time ago. But inside my purse, I’m carrying the last two. Just in case, I thought the day I put them...

Being Successful Requires You To Be Okay With Discomfort, Self-Mastery Requires You To Fall...

The journey to bliss often begins in the last place you’d expect: discomfort. The truth is that to really heal, to really ascend, to really deeply and...

Please Remember Your Instagram Isn’t Going To Flash Before Your Eyes When You Die

When you get to the end of your life, you aren’t going to be scrolling back through your posts, reminiscing. You aren’t going to think back to...

If I Was Less Of A Girl, And More Of A Woman

I’m spinning drunk, spinning dizzy. Picking at hangnails like I can dig my way to you. I would bite your neck if I could leave my...

I Miss You, But I Can’t Wait For You Anymore

I can’t wait around for you anymore. Even as I say it, it feels like a lie. It feels like a lie because of how long I...

All Of The Things Which I Do Not Miss

Cigarette smoke. That nicotine-stained thumb. Your second-hand mouth. The purple staining the skin under your eyes. How I swore the violet would stain my fingers if...

A Short List Of Things That Are Absolutely Not Poetic

1. that song. that song which is–was–our song. the one you once played when we hung out and then randomly came up in my spotify the day...

A Case For The Grey Area

I wish you could see how special you truly are. Instead, you’re focused on what could have been and sad about what will no longer be. I...

In Which My Rapist Asks Me Out

Trigger Warning: This piece uses potentially upsetting language involving rape and sexual assault. the gun goes off, and no one can hear it but me. i’m bleeding...

One Year Of You

June It wasn’t love at first sight with him but familiarity – the kind that only deepened the more our paths crossed, like walking on uncharted territory...

Everything And So Much More

Maybe we’ve got it all wrong. Maybe the right person isn’t the one who agrees with everything that we say or tells us tiny white lies...

I’ve Spent So Much Time Not Writing

When I was young, I was a writer. I was the comedy editor for the school paper and my average grade in English was 98%. My...

The Harsh Truth About Healing That They Will Never Tell You In Therapy

What they don’t tell you about healing is that it isn’t peaceful. What they don’t tell you is that healing is not a linear progression in which...

A Love Story Told Through Missed Connections

The entry to this comedy club reeks of bad 90s design with checkered wallpaper plastering the entryway. The remaining walls near what resembles a stage in...

Don’t Read The Last Page

I traced the letters of your skin to form the sentences I wanted to hear from you, and my ears sung along as the story I...

Why Some People Never Outgrow Their Childish Behaviors And End Up Completely Unhappy In...

Something that you don’t learn about life until it’s often too late is that growth is not inevitable, it’s optional. We often grow up assuming that one...

He Loves Wilco And I Ask, ‘Who?’

I can’t tell if he rolls his eyes, because I am already rolling mine. As a music snob, I have stuck to my snobbery and refused...

Fifteen Things You Should Know

One, I lied. To you and to myself. The first time you told me that you loved me, I knew that my feelings were getting to that...

I Just Want To Be On Fire

I’ve been waiting 21 years for someone to have sex with me while listening to Springsteen’s “I’m on Fire”. I think it would be magical as...

A Short, Sad Love Story

My brief love affair with Los Angeles coincided with the similarly brief and most intense relationship I’ve ever had. It began in the spring- blossoming out...

Six Things To Remember When It’s Time To Actually Move On

One, he’s gone. He’s not coming back. He is now a wind passing to your window, forcing you to remember the smell of his breath and the...

That June | Thought Catalog

That June I started Prozac and it made me really cranky. Exotic heat trapped my pores with dirt. I stood in the deep end of the...

The Things We Do In The Dark

Around 11:45 on a Thursday night a man is steering me by the waist out onto the sidewalk, placing me in the passenger seat of his...

As Soon As You Master Where You Are, It’s Time To Move Onto The...

You spend so much time working to find your footing in the phase of life you’re in. You spend so much time trying to master the...

31 One-Sentence Reminders For When You Are Feeling Like You’re Not Quite Enough

1. You will never be good enough for yourself when your goal is to be good enough for someone else. 2. Those who have no intention of...

Stop Rushing The Timing Of Your Life, You Do Not Have To Accomplish Everything...

It is important to set deadlines for your dreams. It’s not just important, it’s crucial. It’s the difference between ideas and goals, hopes and plans. You have to...

He’s Everything You’re Not And I’m Probably Going To Break His Heart

I sneak out of his bed around 3 and gather my clothes from the floor. I don’t bother picking up my heart; I think I’ll leave...

Maybe You’ll Never Be The Same After An Abusive Relationship And Maybe That’s Okay

Trigger Warning Hiding my favorite benzodiazepines – Xanax and Klonopin – in lipstick tubes and vitamin bottles, the false calm they’d bestow upon me and then the...

This Is What It Means To Glow Up, Because It’s Not About Proving The...

Your glow up might not be something others can see. It might not come across as a shift on the surface. In a world of revenge bodies...

You Can Fight With Everything You Have, But What Isn’t Right For You Will...

There is nothing that you can do to win someone, or something, that is not meant to be yours. You can fight with everything you have. You...

19 Reassuring Things To Remind Yourself Every Day

You’ve made it to another day and maybe this day will be your best yet. Maybe this day will be your hardest yet. Or maybe it...

7 Things To Do When It All Gets To Be A Bit Too Much

1. Anxiety Cardio. Admittedly, I copied the term from Caroline Calloway who I’m skeptical of but I really like her apartment and feel some empathy for...

Forget That Thing You Heard About Love Having To Hurt Sometimes

honey, i get it. no one’s ever kissed you quite like that, and when he touches you, everything’s a little brighter, leaves aren’t just green, but about...

If This Were My Book The Ending Would Be So Different

“Once he had told her something that she could not imagine: that amputees suffer pains, cramps, itches, in the leg that is no longer there. That...

7 Years: An Essay In The Fifth Person

A writing prompt was shared with me recently that every seven years all of the cells in our bodies shed and replace themselves, meaning that every...

Life Will Be Good To You Soon, I Promise

One morning, one day very soon, you will wake up with that warm, cozy feeling deep down in the pit of your stomach; that nearly perfect,...

You Will Find These Words When You Need To

Lean in closely to the words you are about to read. It is highly possible at least one sentence you need to see. Your heart will feel...

Some Thoughts On The (Wonderful) Things I’ll Never Admit To Your Face

How you use my full name with such an infliction that I feel like some sort of celebrity or something. How you make me feel like...

December With You, January Without You

My body fights sleep. Waking up with your name on my tongue. These dark days between the holidays spent stagnant and silent. Friends are out of...

In My Phone Live Dreams Of Another Place

I spend the greater half of my time looking at real estate. In between meetings, in waiting rooms, on conference calls. I’m not in the market...

Here’s The Brutally Honest Truth: I Don’t Need You Anymore

I cannot tell you how many conversations I start on a regular basis with the phrase, “I read this thing…” with my family, my friends, my...

How To Sell Your Wedding Dress

Understand that your engagement is over. You’ve packed up everything you own into your car. You and your ex-fiancé go to the leasing office to sign...

Just Another Casual Existential Crisis

I am inspecting myself in the mirror after my pee. I used to daydream about clothes like this, business casual, paralegal-type pinstripe suits and skirts and...

A Short List Of Things I Would Have Told You If You Would’ve Just...

1. My last name. I only learned yours because I saw your work I.D. and key card inside your truck when you were dropping me off...

19 Things I Promise To Do For Myself In 2019

1. To let go of the toxic people/habits in my life It’s hard to admit when a situation, habit, or even person has become a toxic presence...