I Didn’t Burn The Bridge, I Just Lit The Match

I knew that day that there would be no going back from what I had done. I was faced with two options: continue pretending that everything...

You’ve Broken My Heart One Too Many Times

I know that I told you once that I would always love you. That no matter what might happen in our lives, part of my heart...

Please Remember That People Do Not Need To Be Perfect Before They Can Be...

Please remember that people do not need to be their best possible selves before you can honor them. Please remember that people do not need to complete...

The Key To Being Captivating

In the halcyon pre-COVID era — which was either a generation ago, or last year, as time’s dissolved into a hazy suspension of eternity and ephemera...

30 Impactful Lessons I Hope You Learn In Your Twenties

I think we “grow up” in our twenties. We work on becoming (and figuring out) who we want to be. And as we move through these...

Even When It Feels Endless, Please Remember That This Will Pass

While you’re in the middle of a dark night, it feels like the dawn is an impossibility when it is, in fact, an inevitability. Even when it...

I Miss You, But I Understand We Aren’t Meant For Each Other

I want things to be different. I desperately do. I’ve always held out hope that we would find a way if we just tried hard enough. If...

On Making Peace With Endings

I have a tendency to hold on too tightly, to people, to places, and to moments, stretching out all of the goodness until the final breaking...

You Can’t Make Them Want You

The questions linger in your head, even when you try to ignore them. “Why don’t they want me? What’s wrong with me?” The truth is, it’s not always...

A Story About The Neighborhood

Pushing open the doors, a gray overcast sky greets me, poking in between the colds to create space are the houses, A-frame ticky-tacky colorless comfortable shelters...

The Strange Silver Lining Of Everything Going Wrong At Once

There is a sublime comfort when we find the sun setting on the world all at once. At last, the sun is not just setting on us...

These Are The Stories We Will Tell About 2020

When we are asked about this time, we will tell them about how our stovetops were always dirty, and how much we cooked. We will tell them...

In This Time Of Darkness, Please Care More

In the United States, the coronavirus is spreading like wildfire, with no end in sight. And it’s dauntingly too late to take many of the lifesaving...

Marry Someone You Would Want Your Daughter To Marry

Marry someone you would want your daughter to marry. Marry someone who wakes you up with the same joy that you’d want giving your baby every morning....

A Calming Reminder For Each Zodiac Sign

Aries: It’s okay to slow down. You don’t always have to be moving- you’re allowed to take a moment and breathe. Taurus: Wanting to be safe is...

Read This When You Know What You Need To Heal, But Don’t Know How

If you know that you need to heal but don’t know where to begin, you will need to trust the process. You will need to trust the...

You Will Move On | Thought Catalog

I know that you can’t picture your life without them. It’s not a small thing, a tiny feeling to take lightly. I know that without them,...

Not Everyone Is Going To Heal The Way You Did, And They’re Not Supposed...

At this moment, everyone you know is having the exact experience that they need to have. This is hard to accept sometimes. When we see someone we love...

When You Have To Say Goodbye To The Person You Love

You knew this was going to be hard, but you didn’t know it would be this hard. Now that they are right in front of you,...

The Best Relationship Of Your Life Will Be With A Girl Who Loves Fearlessly

Love is a scary subject. Yes, we often paint it with roses and sunset backdrops, sweet words, and nights spent lying next to each other. When we...

Everyone Grieves In Their Own Way, So Stop Judging Someone Else’s Process

No two people experience grief the same way. There is no one right way to do it. When you see someone go through a loss, sometimes, you empathize,...

I Couldn’t Fix You If I Tried

I think the temperature must have hovered around 45 and misty when you took my hand and laid it to your chest amidst a maze of...

To The Friends I Don’t See As Much But Still Think Of All The...

It used to be so much easier, didn’t it? The days where we were all in the same place. The times we took for granted, back...

You Deserve Someone Who Is Excited To Love You

It seems that in the course of modern dating, romance movies, dating apps, and failed connections, we decided that we were asking too much when it...

And This Is Why I’ll Get Over You

It was the moment that I realized that for all of the moments you were on my mind, I was just an afterthought. I put you...

This Year, Learn To Stop Taking Everything So Personally

There’s an old saying that when it rains, a certain type of person will believe it’s because the sky is intentionally trying to get them wet...

Keeping Plants — And Love — Alive

Everything I’m about to tell you about plants is likely wildly inaccurate. I’m not a botanist. I’m not even a great gardener. I’m a mediocre keeper...

This Is What It Really Means To Be Kind To Yourself, Because It’s Not...

When we think of kindness, we often confuse it for niceness, and the two are not the same. When we are being nice, we are being placid...

The Antithesis Of Crashing And Burning

​For a long time, you stayed out as late as you could. You saw peace as a bore, mindfulness as a joke, self-care as a piece of satire. You...

I Hate You, Don’t Leave Me

I understand it now, why hurricanes are named after people. You blew into my life, a whirlwind of epic proportions. And in the middle of it...

I Would Have Done Anything For You To Be The Person You Promised You...

It’s late, our watches creeping towards midnight and we’re stumbling through a quiet, residential part of North London; I don’t remember how we arrived here but...

Where Do You Find Your Inspiration?

Ευπρόσδεκτη; welcome, welcomed, appreciated, palatable “Where do you find your inspiration?” He was from Greece, he said, here on a business trip with his sister. He had kind...

In 2020, Let Go Of The Things That Hold You Back

As the end of the year comes to a close, it’s essential to look around at your life. Take the time to reflect on all the...

10 Reminders To Tell Yourself As The Decade Ends And The New Year Begins

The end of the year always causes us to reflect on our lives, how we could’ve changed them, and what we’re proud of. It can feel...

You Aren’t A ‘Before’ Picture, You’re Worthy Of The Life You Want Right Now

The thing about self-esteem is that nobody is going to come along one day and convince you that you’re enough. In all of our magical healing fantasies,...

When The Time Is Right

I want you to listen to me clearly – things do not get better straight away. They always take time. Moving on from hurtful experiences can take days,...

I Was A Living Heart-Eyed Emoji For You

The waitress asked, “Can I get you two anything else?” If only waitresses were genies who could grant wishes. From the start the menu read “crash and...

And This Is When You Will Save Yourself

“Nobody will protect you from your suffering. You can’t cry it away or eat it away or starve it away or walk it away or punch...

I Always Want To Text Him In November

It’s always hard this time of year. Even when I’m at my happiest, my most confident self, there is that part of me that thinks, “I wish...

Me, Him, And A Few Other Things I’m Admittedly Afraid Of

I stopped taking Xanax some time ago. But inside my purse, I’m carrying the last two. Just in case, I thought the day I put them...

Please Remember Your Instagram Isn’t Going To Flash Before Your Eyes When You Die

When you get to the end of your life, you aren’t going to be scrolling back through your posts, reminiscing. You aren’t going to think back to...

If I Was Less Of A Girl, And More Of A Woman

I’m spinning drunk, spinning dizzy. Picking at hangnails like I can dig my way to you. I would bite your neck if I could leave my...

All Of The Things Which I Do Not Miss

Cigarette smoke. That nicotine-stained thumb. Your second-hand mouth. The purple staining the skin under your eyes. How I swore the violet would stain my fingers if...

A Short List Of Things That Are Absolutely Not Poetic

1. that song. that song which is–was–our song. the one you once played when we hung out and then randomly came up in my spotify the day...

A Story About Starting Over

By Liz Rae Updated September 25, 2019 By Liz Rae Updated September 25, 2019 It has been exactly eight months since I lived here. I return to my old apartment...

One Year Of You

June It wasn’t love at first sight with him but familiarity – the kind that only deepened the more our paths crossed, like walking on uncharted territory...

Everything And So Much More

Maybe we’ve got it all wrong. Maybe the right person isn’t the one who agrees with everything that we say or tells us tiny white lies...

The Harsh Truth About Healing That They Will Never Tell You In Therapy

What they don’t tell you about healing is that it isn’t peaceful. What they don’t tell you is that healing is not a linear progression in which...

A Love Story Told Through Missed Connections

The entry to this comedy club reeks of bad 90s design with checkered wallpaper plastering the entryway. The remaining walls near what resembles a stage in...

Don’t Read The Last Page

I traced the letters of your skin to form the sentences I wanted to hear from you, and my ears sung along as the story I...

Goodbye July, Hello August | Thought Catalog

July, you were a whirlwind of experiences and emotions and as I watch you leave I am left with lingering emotions you have left me with...

Let Today Be The Day You Stop Lying To Yourself

The most destructive lies aren’t the ones told to us — they’re the ones we tell ourselves. Those lies we repeat quietly to convince ourselves that...

Fifteen Things You Should Know

One, I lied. To you and to myself. The first time you told me that you loved me, I knew that my feelings were getting to that...

I Just Want To Be On Fire

I’ve been waiting 21 years for someone to have sex with me while listening to Springsteen’s “I’m on Fire”. I think it would be magical as...

A Short, Sad Love Story

My brief love affair with Los Angeles coincided with the similarly brief and most intense relationship I’ve ever had. It began in the spring- blossoming out...

Six Things To Remember When It’s Time To Actually Move On

One, he’s gone. He’s not coming back. He is now a wind passing to your window, forcing you to remember the smell of his breath and the...

A Journey Through The Past Via My Facebook Friend Suggestions

The High School Sweetheart You remind me of fresh-cut grass before soccer games and of bright-white football-field Friday night lights. You remind me of sneaking out past curfew...

That June | Thought Catalog

That June I started Prozac and it made me really cranky. Exotic heat trapped my pores with dirt. I stood in the deep end of the...

Beware Of The Day She Takes All Her Love Back

Beware of the day she gives up because that means she’s reached her boiling point. It means that she’s been holding on and trying for far...

31 One-Sentence Reminders For When You Are Feeling Like You’re Not Quite Enough

1. You will never be good enough for yourself when your goal is to be good enough for someone else. 2. Those who have no intention of...

Nothing At All Needs To Be Perfect, Especially You

If you’re in the middle of overthinking and your thoughts are exhausting you think about this – nothing at all needs to be perfect. Your thoughts of...

He’s Everything You’re Not And I’m Probably Going To Break His Heart

I sneak out of his bed around 3 and gather my clothes from the floor. I don’t bother picking up my heart; I think I’ll leave...

After Every Deception, You’ll Find The Truth

Here’s the funny thing about fate, it doesn’t like liars. It exposes them eventually. It sends their malicious karma back to them and it sends little...

This Is How You Start To Let Go, Even If You Don’t Feel Like...

You cannot force yourself to let go, no matter how much you know you want to. You cannot force something out of your brain space, no matter...

To The Loves That Were Never Meant To Last

I think there are some loves that aren’t meant to last, that burn what they’re meant to illuminate and drown what they’re meant to nourish. They’re...

A Short List Of Things I Lost When I Wasn’t Paying Attention

Any number of circumstances can make us lose sight of things which are important, or lose parts of ourselves without even realizing, not until it’s too...

The Laws Of (Constant) Motion

Our good friend, Sir Isaac Newton, defined three laws of motion in his lifetime, but for the sake of this article, I’ll list the two that...

19 Reassuring Things To Remind Yourself Every Day

You’ve made it to another day and maybe this day will be your best yet. Maybe this day will be your hardest yet. Or maybe it...

Some People Aren’t Meant To Last Forever (So Love Them While They’re Here)

When it comes to relationships and falling in love, we honestly put far too much pressure on ourselves. We think of the idea of falling in...

Forget That Thing You Heard About Love Having To Hurt Sometimes

honey, i get it. no one’s ever kissed you quite like that, and when he touches you, everything’s a little brighter, leaves aren’t just green, but about...

I’ve Watched ‘I Love You’ Stretch Over The Atlantic

Tears reside in me like lost habits. I’m indulging in my wallowing and pastéis de nata. I know that if I allow one more teardrop to...

40 Little Things That Make Life And Love Totally Worth It

1. The sound of the door closing when your husband/wife/partner comes home from work. 2. Laundry from your family members. 3. Goodbye kisses. 4. Hello kisses. 5. Good morning kisses. 6....

This Is What I Want You To Remember

I am pretty sure that my name is always written all over your body like notes. A day won’t pass that I am not in your...

Of Monsters And Men | Thought Catalog

The first monster I met looked like the ‘90s looked like summer afternoons looked like swimming pools like soccer fields like nintendo controllers like cherry Kool-Aid. The first monster I met was not in...

If This Were My Book The Ending Would Be So Different

“Once he had told her something that she could not imagine: that amputees suffer pains, cramps, itches, in the leg that is no longer there. That...

With All Of Me, I Hope You Have Hope

With all of me, I hope you move forward with hope. I hope you find hope inside your heart, because it is there no matter what you...

You Need To Know You Deserve Me

After you left I suffocated myself in the candlelight I burned for us. I poured the wax on my heart in hopes it would remold into...

Forgive Yourself For Struggling With An Unclear Mind

Lately, more than half of the time, her mind is half functioning to its fullest degree. Her thoughts mostly consist of, “Why does my brain feel...

This Is Grief | Thought Catalog

this is grief. staring. at the sea. out the window. at the words you mean to read. at the wall. at the back of your eyes as...

I Hope You Don’t Just Happen To Anyone

Hey you, I hope you don’t just happen to anyone. I hope you happen to someone who appreciates your magic, someone who wants someone exactly like you...

Life Will Be Good To You Soon, I Promise

One morning, one day very soon, you will wake up with that warm, cozy feeling deep down in the pit of your stomach; that nearly perfect,...

You Will Find These Words When You Need To

Lean in closely to the words you are about to read. It is highly possible at least one sentence you need to see. Your heart will feel...

Some Thoughts On The (Wonderful) Things I’ll Never Admit To Your Face

How you use my full name with such an infliction that I feel like some sort of celebrity or something. How you make me feel like...

December With You, January Without You

My body fights sleep. Waking up with your name on my tongue. These dark days between the holidays spent stagnant and silent. Friends are out of...

Here’s The Brutally Honest Truth: I Don’t Need You Anymore

I cannot tell you how many conversations I start on a regular basis with the phrase, “I read this thing…” with my family, my friends, my...

How To Sell Your Wedding Dress

Understand that your engagement is over. You’ve packed up everything you own into your car. You and your ex-fiancé go to the leasing office to sign...

Just Another Casual Existential Crisis

I am inspecting myself in the mirror after my pee. I used to daydream about clothes like this, business casual, paralegal-type pinstripe suits and skirts and...

A Short List Of Things I Would Have Told You If You Would’ve Just...

1. My last name. I only learned yours because I saw your work I.D. and key card inside your truck when you were dropping me off...

I Wish There Wasn’t A Reason To Be Sitting Here Writing This About You

It’s 7 pm on a Sunday night and I’m already drunk. Fingerprints clouding the glass surface of the wine glass I’m gripping so affectionately. Box of...