You’ve most likely heard of Lorena Bobbitt, who made headlines in 1993 for castrating her husband, John Wayne Bobbitt, and throwing his penis out of a car window. After she was found not guilty by reason of insanity (her husband was acquitted, as well), Lorena became vilified and mocked, her name turned into a punch line. “I was the subject of so many jokes in the ’90s and to me it was just cruel. They didn’t understand. Why would they laugh about my suffering?” Lorena told the New York Times.
However, after years of therapy, she grew to understand why people were fascinated with the story and how absurd everything sounded when put together (the penis, the hot dog box — even her ex-husband’s last name). “I’ll put myself through the jokes and everything as long as I can shine a light on domestic violence and sexual assault and marital rape,” Lorena added.
Which is probably why she agreed to participate in the creation of the 2019 Amazon Prime four-part docuseries Lorena (executive produced by Jordan Peele), and why she’s OK with being back in the spotlight again, promoting her new Lifetime movie, I Was Lorena Bobbitt, out May 25. “People used to judge me before, saying that they don’t believe my story. To tell the story again is more than a blessing, to me it is an opportunity to tell it right,” Lorena, who now goes by Lorena Gallo, told Entertainment Tonight.
What is Lorena Bobbitt (Gallo) up to now?
After the trial, Lorena had to serve some time at a psychiatric hospital. After she was released, she went back to her life as a manicurist, and later became a hair stylist, and then a real estate agent. She went to church on a regular basis, and started going to community college, where she met her now partner, David Bellinger. At first they were friends, but then after a couple years, they became romantically involved. Although the two aren’t married, they do have a 13-year-old daughter together. The family lives in Manassas, Virginia.
Above all, Lorena wanted her life back. “When I finished with the trial, in the beginning, geez, I couldn’t even go to the grocery store because people would say, ‘Oh my god, You know what, I know you.’ I just wanted to put my groceries down and go home. I just wanted to take care of myself and my family. You know, just to integrate myself into normalcy and a normal life,” she told the NYT.
With the docuseries and Lifetime movies — and with her work advocating for abused women, Lorena hopes that her story will continue to positively impact laws around domestic violence. “I hope to reclaim my life that way. It’s a shame that it took so long for people to actually see it through the lens of the #MeToo movement and the perspective of domestic violence,” Lorena told ET.
She continued, “For many years, I kept a low profile and I avoided the attention,” but after she saw that even after all these years later, not enough had changed around the conversation about domestic abuse, she knew she had to speak up about her experience.”I felt that it was the right thing to do, to come forward with my story. If I could help at least one person escape domestic violence then all my pain and suffering that I went through was not in vain.”
John Bobbitt lives in Las Vegas. He participated in the Amazon docuseries, in which he maintains his innocence, even though he’s been accused of domestic violence by several partners he’s had after he and Lorena divorced. “It’s all made up and I’m tired of it. I was with a lot of of women…and none of them ever complained, except Lorena. And Joanna,” John told the NYT. According to Lorena, John still harasses her and sends her love letters — she obviously has no intention of ever getting back together with him.
These days, Lorena runs the Lorena Gallo Foundation, a non-profit organization that helps victims of domestic violence. She spends a lot of time with her family. Her most recent Instagram post is from Easter, which shows the now 49-year-old Lorena enjoying a burger and a glass of wine (with a side of hand sanitizer, of course) in Old Alexandria, presumably with her partner and daughter.
Although Lorena doesn’t post many pictures of her family, here’s one of herself and her daughter over the holidays in December, 2018.
For someone to go through so much pain and humiliation and come out want to help others is truly an inspiration. I Was Lorena Bobbitt airs on May 25 on Lifetime at 8 p.m. EST.