It’s dangerous to care too much about others and too little about yourself. You might think you’re being a good person by looking out for everyone else, by placing their needs ahead of your own — but in reality, the more you neglect yourself, the more trouble you’re going to have in your relationships.
When you stop taking care of yourself, when you allow your stress to get the best of you, your attitude shifts. You become moody. You become unpredictable.
Sometimes your stress encourages you to say something you regret seconds after it leaves your mouth. Other times, the stress causes you to collapse in bed as soon as your work day is over, with no leftover time to dedicate to the people you care about the most.
You need to find a way to deal with your stress, because if you let it fester, it’s going to negatively impact your relationships. There is going to come a day when you need an outlet for your emotions, and since you allowed your person to become your whole world, you will use them as a punching bag.
They will be the one to deal with your screaming, your crying, your complaints. They will suffer along with you. And that’s not healthy. They don’t deserve your wrath. They only deserve the best from you.
You might think your person wants you to take care of them, to spoil them, to be there for them every second of every day — but they would rather have you take care of yourself. They would rather see a little bit less of you if it means you’ll be able to have enough time to take care of your own physical and mental well-being.
If you want a healthy relationship, you need to have a healthy mindset.
It’s okay if you have baggage, but you should be putting effort into lightening the load. You should be actively trying to become a better person. You should be taking some time to deal with your problems with your insecurities, with your stressors.
You shouldn’t put all of your energy into your relationship and stop putting energy into yourself because that’s a recipe for disaster. It’s not going to end well. If you want to make your person happy, you have to make yourself happy first.
If you don’t deal with your stress now, it’s eventually going to ruin your relationship. You’re accidentally going to explode on your person. Or you’re going to grow distant from your person because you’re going to have less time to dedicate to them.
If you don’t want that to happen, then you need to give yourself the attention you deserve, the therapy you deserve, the pampering you deserve. Putting all of your effort into your relationship might sound like a good idea right now, but eventually, it will come back to haunt you. It’s much better to leave a little effort for yourself — because when you’re in a healthy state of mind, it’s much easier to maintain a healthy relationship.