There’s a cheesy church sign I think about often that reads, “Character is how you treat those who can do nothing for you.” I think it made such a lasting impression on me because we live in such a dog-eat-dog world, I sometimes think we’re much more interested in the end goal we’re trying to manifest than in the path and people who might have had a hand in helping us get there.
And we often approach life with paranoia, thinking up a savage insult to roast that dude who wronged us, or listing all the potential hurt that might ensue from going on a date with our latest Tinder match.
But what if we refocused our lenses and spent some time thinking about all the good in the world, and the incredible people we ignore as we myopically cruise through our day-to-day lives? A bit of appreciation can go a long way, and a recent AskReddit had users sharing all the “green flags” that point to a decent, genuinely good person.
Below, some tell-tale signs of friends and prospective romantic partners you should absolutely keep in your life.
They help out, even when there’s nothing in it for them.
They’re humble, even when they’re in a position of authority.
They go out of their way for you, even when you haven’t talked in years.
They talk about things that are interesting to you, even when it’s not a subject that particularly interests them.
They’re flexible, even when they have their own opinions.
They treat people who are often ignored with respect, gratitude, and dignity.
They care about nature and animals.
They’re generous with sharing their stuff, even when they really like what they have.
They come to the rescue, even when they don’t know the whole story.
They help those who can’t help themselves.
They listen to understand, rather than listen to respond.
They’re inviting and inclusive, and engage quiet people in their conversations.
They go out of their way to prove they care.
They know how to be honest without being excessively brutal or mean.
BONUS: They exhibit all the qualities of this person’s mom’s boyfriend.