Okay, so not everyone – even the more romantic people among us – believes in the concept of a “soulmate” or “the one”.

And perhaps the idea that there is one person out there who we are destined to be with is overly idealistic at best and relatively archaic at worst.

Perhaps over the course of your life, you’ll find many “soulmates” and “the ones”. But when we give the person we’re dating this sort of label, it’s because the adoration we feel them is so overwhelming that we couldn’t imagine being with anyone else in that moment.

Remember that “When did you know she was the one” scene in Good Will Hunting?

So, without further ado, here are 10 signs that you’ve met “the one” according to people who have first-hand experience in that area…

1. When you feel a deep sense of comfort around them early on in the relationship

“When Randy and I first met after initially connecting on AOL Instant Messenger (way back when!), as soon as our eyes met, I wasn’t anxious or nervous about meeting some stranger off the internet. It was like that song lyric, ‘It is well with my soul,’ something about him immediately felt familiar and I was instantly at peace just being in his presence.

I didn’t get the butterflies around this incredibly gorgeous guy who couldn’t take his eyes off me; instead, it was like my soul recognized him as my missing piece. When we met the first time, it really was like time stood still ― all I could hear was my heart pounding, all I could see was him.” ― Ashley Durham

2. When the two of you are different but in a good way

“I knew my wife was my soulmate when I realized the ways we were opposite balanced me and the ways we were alike bettered me. It’s an adrenaline-fueled, surreal feeling that’s also stunning in a how-are-you-so-perfect-for-me type of way.” ― Renita Freeney