Let’s be honest here. Some men can be absolute jerks. If you’ve ever been cheated on then you know what I’m talking about.

Personally, my ex pulled out all the stops to try and hide his secret side piece. There was lying, gaslighting, and every excuse in the book before he finally pulled the plug by telling me he was moving in with her… via text… on my birthday. Yeah, I’m serious.

At the time, I was heartbroken and probably let a lot of things go that I shouldn’t have, but today I’ve learned a lot and became a much stronger person. He, on the other hand, has now lost all his friends, is long-term unemployed, and drinks way more than he should to cover up how unhappy he is.

These days I just feel kind of sorry for him and I wish him all the best. He needs it.

Meanwhile, if you’re still at the stage where you think something fishy is going on with your partner but you’re not sure, then you’ve definitely got to read this list of commonly used excuses and cheating cover-ups. Don’t let a cheating dog lie, you deserve way better!

1. “I’m working late.”

If he’s working late a lot or suddenly has business trips away, chances are he’s seeing someone else. This happened to me except the excuse was “I have to help my parents out with the garden”, but unless his parents owned a secret 150-acre beet farm, he was cheating. And he was.

Want to know a way to check? If he’s gone away, call the hotel or location to confirm or casually mention to a coworker or mutual friend about his trip away. Proceed with caution, though! If he is telling the truth, you may seriously be risking breaking his trust.

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2. “I’m going to the gym.”

Some guys like to work out on the regular, and it is a great way to burn off stress, so maybe he’s just on a health kick or trying to work off worries about work. Of course, if his physique is getting worse and he’s putting on cologne to lift weights, something’s up.

Give his gym bag a sniff when he gets home to see if he’s actually been breaking a sweat, or perhaps just mention you don’t think his current workout is showing results and suggest to go with him next time for support. See if he squirms.