If you’re in a relationship with a man, then you’ll know how difficult it can be for men to express their feelings. Popular culture portrays emotions as a sign of weakness in men, and, as a result, figuring out what your boyfriend is thinking can feel like trying to solve a Rubix Cube.

It’s no secret that communication is the key to a great relationship, but sometimes even people in the best relationships have grievances or requests that they wouldn’t dare to voice out of fear of hurting their partner. Thankfully, some men have opened up about exactly what they are.

1. “I secretly like romantic and cheesy gestures”

With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, why not go all out for your man instead of sitting back and expecting him to be romantic for your sake alone? This is something which toxic masculinity prevents a lot of men from asking for, but there’s no harm in going all-out on the most romantic day of the year to see how your man responds. This could be as simple as making a scrapbook of keepsakes from your time together.

2. “It’s really hot watching you eat”

As a result of popular culture, a lot of women are reluctant to eat what they want in front of a man they’re trying to impress because they don’t want to be labelled “fat” or “disgusting”, but most guys absolutely love food, and as far as they’re concerned, it’s hot watching a woman enjoy wings as much as they do. So the next time you’re in a restaurant together, do something for both of you and order exactly what you want.

3. “Move in with me”

It can be difficult for men to admit that they want to take a relationship to the next level because they’re frightened that they’ll scare their partner off, but two can live easier (and often cheaper) than one, and if you’ve been together a while, there’s no harm in suggesting it. Chances are that you and your guy are spending a few nights a week together anyway, and it would save you both money on rent!

Popular culture dictates that there are certain things which men are supposed to do first. It’s almost unheard of for a woman to propose, and, in a lot of relationships, it’s up to men to make things ‘official’ and confess their love first. While there’s no doubt that we are living in a world where gender roles are changing and becoming more equal, there’s still one department where men want women to take more control…