Your name is the base layer of your identity. It is the part of you that everybody in the world has full access to, whether you like it or not. As a result, parents choose their baby’s name carefully to ensure that it’s perfectly suitable (for example, naming your child Issac if your surname is Hunt, is about the most irresponsible thing you can do).
It’s the reason why some people opt to change their names as they grow older, often adopting their nickname as their genuine name.
When it comes to marriage, women are coerced into changing their name in order to take their partner’s surname. It’s just the social norm.
It’s a tradition which has been in effect since the earliest of marriages where it was assumed that men would buy and build the house and thus, a woman’s last name would become the name of the house she’d married into. For example, the House of Stark in Game of Thrones and The House of Windsor, the royal house which Queen Elizabeth II is part of.
Of course, for those not of royal or aristocratic blood, the surname was usually your husband’s profession. For example, someone with the surname Taylor is likely descended from a tailor, and the ancestors of someone named Thatcher were probably roof thatchers.
But times have changed, women now have as much clout as their husband and thus as much right to have their surname honored.
With women in the workplace, politics, and entertainment, it’s important for them to maintain their identity just as much as it is for men. Of course, this often results in many couples choosing to double-barrel their names. But, for those fearful of the presumptions of pretentiousness that they may be subject to for having a hyphen in their surname, it’s a struggle to know how to proceed.