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We’re persuaded today that there are the three critical indigents to a destination of accomplishment, achievement, and fulfillment. They are, go to college, get a job,...

In 2019, Stop Saying No To Love

It’s easy to say no to love. It’s easy to keep a guard up, to push people away when they start to get close and to stay...

This Is How You Know You’re Falling In Love Based On Your Zodiac Sign

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Every Useful Thing My Therapist Has Ever Told Me

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This Is Me Finally Learning To Unlove You

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Another Person Is Not A Salve To Your Wounds, So Stop Relying On Others...

You probably already know that another person can complete you. There is nobody that can fit into the god and self and love-sized gaps within you....

After Every Deception, You’ll Find The Truth

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8 Signs That Look Like Love But Actually Scream Manipulation

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Forgive Yourself For Struggling With An Unclear Mind

Lately, more than half of the time, her mind is half functioning to its fullest degree. Her thoughts mostly consist of, “Why does my brain feel...

We Used To Kiss | Thought Catalog

(This poem is a dedication to the LGBTQ and growing community. In the 1980’s, many queer individuals lost their lives and loved ones due to the...

Nobody Is Forcing You To Hold Onto Your Baggage But You

Did you know that if baby elephants are chained to a tree when they are young, they will remain by the tree when they are full...

There And Back Again: Why I Gave Up Alcohol At 22

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I’m Getting Way Too Good At Living Alone

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10 Things People With Depression Do That May Seem Like ‘Just Being Sad And...

Depression is a monster. I was originally going to go into more detail with that statement, but I don’t feel that there needs to be anything...

The Silent Struggle Of Postpartum Depression

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This Is What To Channel From The New Moon In Aquarius Based On Your...

It feels like deja vu once again with the New Moon in the sign of Aquarius. Typical themes will involve focusing on the self and letting...

Not A Casual Love Kind Of Girl

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This Is What The Month Of April Has In Store For You Based On...

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You’re The Specter Of A Heartache I Have No Right To Bear

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There’s A Difference Between Romantic And Attachment Love, And It Will Help You Figure...

There are many different types of love we experience in a lifetime. You know that the type of love you have for your parent isn’t the...

Meet Me In January | Thought Catalog

It’s that time of the year again to do some reflection. A year of exploration and letting go. It has been such a fluctuating year of...

Let Today Be The Day You Stop Lying To Yourself

The most destructive lies aren’t the ones told to us — they’re the ones we tell ourselves. Those lies we repeat quietly to convince ourselves that...

Forget That Thing You Heard About Love Having To Hurt Sometimes

honey, i get it. no one’s ever kissed you quite like that, and when he touches you, everything’s a little brighter, leaves aren’t just green, but about...

This Is Grief | Thought Catalog

this is grief. staring. at the sea. out the window. at the words you mean to read. at the wall. at the back of your eyes as...

Don’t Let The Fear Of Failure Stop You From Trying

Society puts so much emphasis on success that it prevents many of us from going after our dreams – from going after what makes us happy,...

Here’s How the March 2019 Mercury Retrograde Will Effect Your Zodiac Sign

Happy Astrological New Year, sky lovers! March is the time to get this party started, but prepare to add a beotch and a half to that guest...

10 Seemingly Unimportant Things That Make Your Relationship That Much Stronger

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You Don’t Walk Away When You Run Out Of Love, You Walk When You...

The only parts of the past that still exist are the ones that we carry with us. The only parts that are still real are the...

You Need To Know You Deserve Me

After you left I suffocated myself in the candlelight I burned for us. I poured the wax on my heart in hopes it would remold into...

31 One-Sentence Reminders For When You Are Feeling Like You’re Not Quite Enough

1. You will never be good enough for yourself when your goal is to be good enough for someone else. 2. Those who have no intention of...

When Anxiety Makes You Feel Like You Are In Danger Every Day Of Your...

It’s as if all the horrific worst-case scenarios flashing through your brain were actually happening. “Picture a place where you felt safe and secure.” I sat on the...

Don’t Read The Last Page

I traced the letters of your skin to form the sentences I wanted to hear from you, and my ears sung along as the story I...

Some People Aren’t Meant To Last Forever (So Love Them While They’re Here)

When it comes to relationships and falling in love, we honestly put far too much pressure on ourselves. We think of the idea of falling in...

This Is Your Zodiac Sister Sign Based On Your Myers-Briggs Personality Type

This is not to imply that if you are a particular Myers-Briggs type, then you are automatically this zodiac sign (though the two can overlap). This...

Why Some People Never Outgrow Their Childish Behaviors And End Up Completely Unhappy In...

Something that you don’t learn about life until it’s often too late is that growth is not inevitable, it’s optional. We often grow up assuming that one...

On Living With And Loving A Blackhole Of A Human

It wasn’t him I fell in love with, but the relief I felt when he left for work. The silence that arrived after he immediately locked...

To The Boy Who Was Once Innocent

Seven years have passed since your shelter was taken apart, piece by piece. I’m writing to you what I wish would have been said to me...

The Harsh Truth About Healing That They Will Never Tell You In Therapy

What they don’t tell you about healing is that it isn’t peaceful. What they don’t tell you is that healing is not a linear progression in which...

When He’s Still Struggling To Move On

One day, I open the trunk in his hallway, searching for a lost book. Hair extensions in a familiar shade of platinum spill out of the...

A Journey Through The Past Via My Facebook Friend Suggestions

The High School Sweetheart You remind me of fresh-cut grass before soccer games and of bright-white football-field Friday night lights. You remind me of sneaking out past curfew...

In The Aftermath Of A Toxic Relationship

I have never loved anybody as much as I loved him. I thought I had experienced the depths of love and heartache. But with him, it was...

This Is The Only Way To Truly Determine If Someone Is The ‘Love Of...

When you are growing up, everyone tells you that you will “just know” when you’ve met the person you’re going to be with forever. This supposed just...

The Truth Behind My HPV Diagnosis And How It Turned My Life Into Unnecessary...

I stared at the doctor unblinkingly. It was a mistake—I had to have heard her wrong. Even as the thought flitted through my mind, I knew...

When I Look At You, I’m Home

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Some Thoughts On The (Wonderful) Things I’ll Never Admit To Your Face

How you use my full name with such an infliction that I feel like some sort of celebrity or something. How you make me feel like...

This Is How You Bring Out The Best In People, Based On Your Zodiac...

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Stay Single Until The Person You Like The Most Is You

Stay single until the person you like the most is you. Until you learn to love yourself. Stay single until you are comfortable in your own...

This Year, I Finally Let You Go

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The Things We Do In The Dark

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This Is How Your Ego Ultimately Effects You Based On Your Zodiac Sign

The ego is necessary in order to thrive and survive in a world where everyone wants to put their peers down. It is no surprise that...

You Will Find These Words When You Need To

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Healing Yourself Is The Most Uncomfortable, Disruptive, Important Thing You Will Ever Do

Healing your mind is not the same thing as healing your body. When you’re wounded, you often go through a progressive,  linear repair. You get better,...

These Are The 6 Signs Who Are Most Likely To Get Back Together With...

You love with your entire being, Cancer, and from the moment you meet someone you’re falling for you just can’t help but picture what your future...

Rethinking Fate And What’s Meant To Be

The other day I was really moved by a story a seventy year old woman told me when I asked her how she and her husband...

This Is Your 30 Day Bravery Guide: Challenge Yourself To Live Loudly, Boldly, And...

You can’t live the life you owe yourself without living it loudly, boldly, and without apology. We all have the power to do so, but we...

Stop Rushing The Timing Of Your Life, You Do Not Have To Accomplish Everything...

It is important to set deadlines for your dreams. It’s not just important, it’s crucial. It’s the difference between ideas and goals, hopes and plans. You have to...

I’ve Watched ‘I Love You’ Stretch Over The Atlantic

Tears reside in me like lost habits. I’m indulging in my wallowing and pastéis de nata. I know that if I allow one more teardrop to...

17 Harsh One-Sentence Truths That All Idealists Need To Consider

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What Each Zodiac Wants (But Will Never Ask For) In A Relationship

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Waking Up Driving And Other Hidden Benefits Of Taking Ambien

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December With You, January Without You

My body fights sleep. Waking up with your name on my tongue. These dark days between the holidays spent stagnant and silent. Friends are out of...

Please, Don’t Go Through The Pain All By Yourself

I posted a carefully edited black and white photo on Instagram the other day of me smiling and carefree, holding my puppy in my arms. The...

Ranking The Zodiac Signs From Who Would Die For Love Vs Who Would Rather...

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7 Powerful Attitudes You Must Have In Order To Achieve Any Change

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19 Things You Can Do In The Next Year That Can Change The Entire...

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A Short List Of Things I Would Have Told You If You Would’ve Just...

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For Girls Who Use Spotify To Heal Heartaches In March

Recovering. – 35 songs. 2 hrs 20 min. I hadn’t been in Puerto Rico for more than 5 hours when I found out via Instagram you were...

Here’s How The Leo New Moon Will Affect Each Zodiac Sign

Ugh, finally, the relief we all need. The July eclipse cycle in Cancer and Capricorn was honestly exhausting for most of us. It was like swimming...

Life Will Be Good To You Soon, I Promise

One morning, one day very soon, you will wake up with that warm, cozy feeling deep down in the pit of your stomach; that nearly perfect,...

He’s Everything You’re Not And I’m Probably Going To Break His Heart

I sneak out of his bed around 3 and gather my clothes from the floor. I don’t bother picking up my heart; I think I’ll leave...

Stay Single Until Love Feels Exactly Like This

Stay single until you find someone who doesn’t want to play games, someone who knows what they want. Someone who will tell you how they feel,...

On Emptiness So Heavy It Hurts

There is no more fingernails left to bite and no one around to fuck. Stepping into the shower, I turn the dial to an unholy temperature. A normal...

Exactly What To Expect From The Full Moon In Scorpio, Based On Your Zodiac...

The full moon will enter Scorpio on May 18th, 2019. We are ready for the transformative phases that this full moon will bring. We cut ties...

I Invited Complete Strangers Over For Dinner And This Is What Happened

Back in November of 2018, I did a project called ’50 acts of kindness.’ From baking cookies for all my neighbors to handing out roses on...

In My Phone Live Dreams Of Another Place

I spend the greater half of my time looking at real estate. In between meetings, in waiting rooms, on conference calls. I’m not in the market...

Exactly What Each Zodiac Sign Learned In 2018 And How They Can Utilize That...

As each year passes by, we are faced with complex challenges and life-changing opportunities. So, it should come as no surprise that 2019 will be full...

Here’s How The Mercury Retrograde In July Will Affect Each Zodiac Sign

Guess who’s back… back again? Shady’s back, so tell ya friends. By “shady,” I mean the notorious Mercury retrograde we all wish would just… not. On July 7,...

A Short, Sad Love Story

My brief love affair with Los Angeles coincided with the similarly brief and most intense relationship I’ve ever had. It began in the spring- blossoming out...

Daenerys Targaryen Is NOT Basic, So Let’s Stop Treating Her Like She Is

This article contains spoilers for Game of Thrones Despite the influx of silver braids, reality TV star Stassi Schroeder shrieking on Instagram at her “khaleesi” fan base,...

Here’s The Most Harrowing Unsolved Murder From Every State

Tracie Jean Hawlett and “J.B.” Beasley (Personal Photos) In 1999, high school seniors J.B. Hilton Green Beasley and Tracie Jean Hawlett, both 17 years old, were on...

Read This If You Feel Like Nothing You Have Or Do Ever Feels Quite...

If you feel as though nothing you have or do is ever quite enough, it’s not because everyone is superseding you in life. It’s not because you...

There’s One Key Difference Between Relationships That Last And Ones That Don’t

In your lifetime, you’re going to be in many different relationships. There will be more than one occasion in which you think you’ve met your soulmate. They’ll...

I Just Want To Be On Fire

I’ve been waiting 21 years for someone to have sex with me while listening to Springsteen’s “I’m on Fire”. I think it would be magical as...

This Is What ‘Game Of Thrones’ Teaches Us About Loyalty, Bravery, And Fighting For...

SPOILERS: Game of Thrones Season 8, Episode 5 Loyalty, bravery, and fighting for what you deserve are all admirable characteristics of a person and a leader. When...

Give Yourself Time To Sit In Silence

When was the last time you sat down in the discomfort of your silence? When was the last time you fell in love with your spirit?...

How To Rediscover Who You Are After A Brutal Breakup

I’ve often pondered: When it comes to breakups, what is the right way to move on? Clean break or remain friends? Rebound or take time to yourself?...

Here Are The Top Three Potential Matches For You, Based On Your Myers-Briggs Personality...

When it comes to dating, we are constantly scouring and searching for ways to determine which people are compatible for us and which ones we should...

This Is How The Super Full Moon In Virgo Will Effect You, Based On...

The Full Moon in Virgo took place on February 19th, 2019. This Moon brought about much needed awareness into our lives that will impact us for...

This Is How Understanding Your Type Will Change Your Life, Based On Your Myers-Briggs...

ENFP: You will understand why you always seek more out of your life. You’re known to be excitable and have a thirst for life. You love to...

19 Ways To Make 2019 Your Best Year Ever

Before stepping into the New Year, remind yourself to forgive the mistakes and let go of any regrets from the past year and allow yourself to...

Beware Of The Day She Takes All Her Love Back

Beware of the day she gives up because that means she’s reached her boiling point. It means that she’s been holding on and trying for far...

This Is What I Want You To Remember

I am pretty sure that my name is always written all over your body like notes. A day won’t pass that I am not in your...

For Those Who Were Disappointed By The Battle Of Winterfell

Spoiler alert: This article contains spoilers for Game of Thrones season 8 episode 3 To all those that are disappointed that the Night King didn’t “win” and...

This Is What It Means To Heal Completely, Because It’s Not About Going Back...

When something scares us but we never get over that fear, we become traumatized. When we’re traumatized, our lives start reflecting that. We begin restricting and isolating....

A Small Compilation Of Gross Things Men Have Said To Me In My Twenty...

A man tells me, Darling, if you’re gonna wear that pretty red lipstick, you should at least smile for me. A man twice my age asks,...

19 Resolutions The Empowered You Needs In 2019

1. Be heard. There’s a voracious firecracker living in all of us, but for some, the idea of being heard rather than just seen comes easier than...

A Love Story Told Through The Texts I Never Sent

(*) Hey! (*) Want to study for this test together? (*) There’s a reason I got in your golf car and not his out there. I’ve been wondering...

Maybe Our Life Purpose Is To Live Out Every Moment

I believe that in every person’s life, one of the biggest internal battles waged in each of us is over the questions: What am I doing...

How Venus In Pisces Will Heal Your Love Life Based On Your Zodiac Sign

Venus is finally back in a sign she is happy in so eventually we will get the best expressions of this planet. Pisces is Exalted in...

What Is Your White Privilege?

This is a question every white person needs to ask themselves. If you haven’t before, then now is the time. If you’ve been living under a rock,...

19 Things I Promise To Do For Myself In 2019

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This Is The Year You Start Feeling Again, However Slowly It Happens

When something in your life hurts you, when you get your hopes dashed and dreams broken and plans don’t unfold the way you imagined, you don’t...

All The Things I’ve Left At The Bottom Of A Bottle

Trigger warning: abuse, drugs and alcohol When that first sip of beer caressed my lips and cascaded down my throat at the lovely age of eight, I...

The 3 Stages Of Falling Apart

You walked into the room and it was full of people, but I didn’t see the people. You shot me a cynical look and I already knew...

He Loves Wilco And I Ask, ‘Who?’

I can’t tell if he rolls his eyes, because I am already rolling mine. As a music snob, I have stuck to my snobbery and refused...

A Brief History Of All The Times You Didn’t Show Up

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Read This If You Are Afraid Of Healing

Healing is ugly. Healing is painful. There’s no other way to put it. Healing means confronting a heartbreak, head on, and feeling the pain and the...

Have Faith—There Is A Plan For All Of This

Have faith, there is a plan for all of this. You might feel the lowest you’ve ever felt. You may feel like the world is crashing down....

I Let Myself Think About You Today

I’m not really sure how it happened. I must have seen something that reminded me of you, or maybe passed by someplace we went before. Regardless,...

This Is You At Your Best Vs. You At Your Worst Based On Your...

Aries Best: You’re ready to take on the world around you with confidence and enthusiasm. You’re a compassionate leader who doesn’t hesitate to take the lead but...

Goodbye July, Hello August | Thought Catalog

July, you were a whirlwind of experiences and emotions and as I watch you leave I am left with lingering emotions you have left me with...

When You Lose The Friend You Thought Would Be In Your Life Forever

When you lose a friend, part of you dies a little. It hurts even more when the end is slow. It starts with them taking a...

A Spotify Playlist For When Everything Feels Too Much

1. Nights – Frank Ocean For when you’re spinning out about the nonsense of the world and you just need to vibe and fantasize about what it’d be...

Here’s Each Zodiac Sign’s June 2019 Horoscope

Beep, beep, beep! Heads up, star lovers. While the heavens are stopping at a rest station for the month, we’ll feel as if the energies here...

As Soon As You Master Where You Are, It’s Time To Move Onto The...

You spend so much time working to find your footing in the phase of life you’re in. You spend so much time trying to master the...

Here’s The Brutally Honest Truth: I Don’t Need You Anymore

I cannot tell you how many conversations I start on a regular basis with the phrase, “I read this thing…” with my family, my friends, my...

An Open Letter To The Ones Who Did Not Choose Me

I always know something was left unsaid when the insomnia kicks in. Days in a row of waking up between 2 and 3AM. My mouth dry...

A Love Story Told Through Missed Connections

The entry to this comedy club reeks of bad 90s design with checkered wallpaper plastering the entryway. The remaining walls near what resembles a stage in...

Fifteen Things You Should Know

One, I lied. To you and to myself. The first time you told me that you loved me, I knew that my feelings were getting to that...

An Apology To My Husband Who Is Ready For A Family Even Though I’m...

I’m sorry that I’m not ready. I often hear that “there’s never a right time to have a baby.” Well, I disagree. I think there is a...

9 Lessons I Learned This Year That Made Me Feel Better About Life

1. Life is just a series of the same experiences over and over. When I first moved to DC after college, I was always jealous of...

Why I Said Goodbye To The French ‘Be Quiet And Mind Your Manners’ Method...

I’m a French girl, born and raised. I first came to the U.S. when I was 21 to be an au pair. The first thing I...

Loving You Is A Privilege That Won’t Always Be Mine

I was spritzing on some Rose 31 by Le Labo, a gift my ex bought me, when it struck me—since a good scent always strikes some...

7 Years: An Essay In The Fifth Person

A writing prompt was shared with me recently that every seven years all of the cells in our bodies shed and replace themselves, meaning that every...

What It’s Like To Have A Miscarriage When No One Knows You’re Pregnant

“Tell me about your periods. Are they regular?” Unless she is trying to determine how pregnant I am, I do not know why that is relevant at...

The Dos And Don’ts Of Being Ghosted

If you’ve never been ghosted before, lucky you. Ghosting is…how do I describe this…ghosting is…horrible! It’s not limited to this definition but basically, it’s when you’ve been dating...

Just Another Casual Existential Crisis

I am inspecting myself in the mirror after my pee. I used to daydream about clothes like this, business casual, paralegal-type pinstripe suits and skirts and...

What My ‘New’ Zodiac Sign Made Me Realize About Astrology

With the start of every new month, one of the first things I do is check my horoscope for any foreshadowing on what to expect. While...

Dear You, Dear Somebody, Come Back

Dear You, This is a letter I will never send or let you read. So let me try this again. Dear Somebody, I need you to love me with...

How You Act In The Face Of What You Can’t Control Determines Whether You’re...

The world wants you to think that there’s very little you can control. There’s a dark part of your psyche that is dependent on believing this,...

Love Is Not Always Convenient

I think we have this huge misconception about what love is what love is not. Current day we are so determined for everything in our lives...

This Is Who You’re Most Likely To Date, Based On Your Zodiac Element

Aries (March 21- April 19) Leo (July 23- August 22) Sagittarius (November 23- December 21) Someone who is different than what you’re used to. Regardless of their race, beliefs,...

I Love My Body, But I Still Struggle With Wanting To Be Perfect

It’s not uncommon for my thoughts throughout the day to range from “you’re perfect just as you are” to “ugh, you’re not good enough.” If that...

January 2019 Full Moon In Leo: Here’s To Moving Forward

There is a full moon in the sign of Leo on January 21, 2019. Not only is this a blood moon, but also a lunar eclipse....

This Is How You Start To Let Go, Even If You Don’t Feel Like...

You cannot force yourself to let go, no matter how much you know you want to. You cannot force something out of your brain space, no matter...

What It Means To Be An Introvert With Depression

What’s wrong with you? Why aren’t you smiling more? Why aren’t you talking? Why aren’t you having fun? Is everything okay? Did something happen? Why can’t...

Things I Wish Someone Told Me In High School

I spent six years learning to be the perfect, proper young woman I was told I would always grow up to become. The desire to conform...

The Difference Between People Who Reject You And People Who Are Actually Toxic To...

Not everyone you are incompatible with is toxic. Not everyone who breaks up with you is a piece of garbage. Not everyone who does not want a relationship...

I Did Not Want To Forget You, I Did Not Want To Forget Us

There is a certain ambiance in the air. I can’t pinpoint it exactly. I can’t articulate with words what I know it to be. There is...

These Are The 4 Loyalest Signs In The Zodiac

1. Capricorn Capricorns get a bad reputation when it comes to relationships. They normally don’t prioritize getting into them because they’re more consumed with career and goal oriented...

Prove To The Universe That You’re Ready To Go All In, And See How...

It is not enough just to ask. It is not enough just to visualize the outcome, to imagine your next level life, to know with complete clarity...

Ranking The Myers-Briggs Personality Types By Who’s The Most Relaxed Partner To Who’s The...

1. ISTP You rarely worry about anything anyway, this is no surprise. You take everything on a day-by-day basis, and spend most of your time just going...

Friends Don’t Touch Like This

The sun is slipping beyond the city skyline. You’re sat close to me but we don’t touch. That was part of the deal. It’s warm out,...

With All Of Me, I Hope You Have Hope

With all of me, I hope you move forward with hope. I hope you find hope inside your heart, because it is there no matter what you...

Why You Keep Falling For Guys Who Hurt You, Based On Your Love Language

If you’re dating without knowledge of your love language, you’re really doing yourself a disservice. I’m obviously no expert in love languages, but I have at least...

If You Aren’t Willing To Start Today, You Aren’t Ready To Change Your Life

Have you ever met someone who wanted to change their eating habits, but before doing so committed to having one day or weekend in which they...

Here’s Exactly How Each Zodiac Sign Can Survive March’s Mercury Retrograde

Mercury goes retrograde on March 5th and will stay in retrograde until the 28th. We should all be used to this by now and the good...

I Wish There Wasn’t A Reason To Be Sitting Here Writing This About You

It’s 7 pm on a Sunday night and I’m already drunk. Fingerprints clouding the glass surface of the wine glass I’m gripping so affectionately. Box of...

You Can Fight With Everything You Have, But What Isn’t Right For You Will...

There is nothing that you can do to win someone, or something, that is not meant to be yours. You can fight with everything you have. You...

Why Taking Control Of My Reproductive Health Makes Me A Happier Woman

As women, we are faced with many choices in regards to our health. At the center of it all is our reproductive health. It is what...

Exactly Which Song From ‘When We All Fall Asleep, Where Do We Go?’ Best...

Aries: “wish you were gay” “to spare my pride, give your lack of interest an explanation/don’t say I’m not your type, just say I’m not your preferred...

This Is Me Saying Goodbye To Modern Dating

This is me saying goodbye to modern dating; this is me saying goodbye to that rush of adrenaline when someone decides to swipe right on my...

Mary, Fucking Mary | Thought Catalog

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16 Things People Don’t Realize You’re Doing Because You Haven’t Mastered Loving Yourself Quite...

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That June | Thought Catalog

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Maybe I’ll Love Myself Anyway

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32 Microshifts You Can Start Doing Today To Transform Your 2019

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50 Small (But Big) Changes To Become An Ultimately Happier You

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How The New Moon In Virgo Will Make Us More Self-Aware And Bring Joy...

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You Are Not Here To Be Perfect, But You Are Here To Be Better...

You are not here to be perfect. In fact, the universe does not allow perfection. Without breaks and gaps, there would be no growth. Nature depends on...

50 Little Ways To Be A Happier You Every Single Day

1. Wake up ten minutes earlier than you normally do and drink your coffee (or tea) a little more slowly than usual. 2. Write one paragraph in...

How White Beauty Standards Are Hurting Women Of Color Everywhere

I live in New Hampshire now, but I’m originally from Hong Kong. Although there are numerous differences between these two places, such as in culture and...

A Reminder To Always Take Care Of Yourself

No one can argue the importance of self-care. It is everywhere-from Facebook memes to Buzzfeed shopping lists to TV shows chanting “treat yaself.” And, it IS...

45 Things To Be Thankful For Right Now

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The Day You Stop Waiting For Them To Come Back Is The Day You...

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This Is The Horoscope You Need To Read For March, Based On Your Zodiac...

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All The Things That Scare Me About Growing Up

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12 Ways To Be Good To Yourself This Year And Every Year After

1. Be mindful of what you think, feel, and want. It’s important to recognize that we all hold selfish needs and desires inside, but it’s critical...

White Hoods Are Making A Comeback In The Form Of Red Hats

Since the dawn of civilization, humans have covered themselves with all manner of things, from leaves to animal skins. What we wear has come to represent...

Ranking The Myers-Briggs Personality Types On Who Loves The Hardest And Leaves The Easiest

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Six Things To Remember When It’s Time To Actually Move On

One, he’s gone. He’s not coming back. He is now a wind passing to your window, forcing you to remember the smell of his breath and the...

This Is The Love Story I Am In

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How To Listen To Your Gut Without Getting Scared Of The Future

One of the most essential tenets of modern wisdom is the idea that, deep down, you know the truth about everything in your life and, by...

This Is Why You’re Willing To Stay In The Wrong Relationship, Based On Your...

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If You Want To Change Your Reality, You’re Going To Need To Be Unrealistic

If you really want to have a different life, you are going to have to be able to see beyond your life. Before you can change your...

The Beauty In The Chaos

It’s a weird feeling sitting alone in my empty house, teetering at the end of a memory. I watched the new tenants move in, looking around...

19 Things To Do More Of In 2019

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This Is How Each Zodiac Sign Can Be Better In Relationships

Though you fear commitment when you do make the decision to enter a relationship you tend to want to rush things. You should give the relationship...

This Is What It Means To Glow Up, Because It’s Not About Proving The...

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How To Fall Out Of Love With Someone Who Doesn’t Love You Back

Love never starts in remarkable ways. It’s the ability to make it last that renders its beauty. I met him and saw ordinariness. That is not the love stories...

Because Of My Loneliness | Thought Catalog

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2019 Is The Year Of Shedding, 2020 Is The Year Of Becoming

This is the year that you let go. Of the old clothes, the debts, the weight, the half-assed relationships, the opinions of people who aren’t an active...

How To Sell Your Wedding Dress

Understand that your engagement is over. You’ve packed up everything you own into your car. You and your ex-fiancé go to the leasing office to sign...

How To Write A Personal Mission, Because Your Vision Will Become Your Reality

When it comes to building the life you want to live, most people try to design it backwards. Most people begin with what habits and routines they...

I Was Never Crazy, You Were Just Shady As Fuck

I always believed I was a little irrational, maybe slightly paranoid, definitely very insecure. I knew, before I met you, that I had a habit of...

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Shattered In one moment, in one instance, everything I have ever know was completely gone. Sitting on the couch smiling and laughing, followed by a cataclysmic series...

10 Easily Missed Signs You’re Leading A Happy And Healthy Life

1. You’re not as comfortable right now as you wish you were. It’s okay to be uncomfortable. It’s okay to demand more from yourself. That’s part...

What It’s Like Growing Up With An Agoraphobic Parent

I was born on February 11th, and I’ve got to say, I often regret it. My parents spent an entire year trying to have me—they read...

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1. Pleasing someone won’t make them accept you. You weren’t born to erase your identity for someone else’s sake of mind. No good ever comes from placing someone...

When You’re The Girl Who Overthinks

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Ever since The Exorcist, movies about demonic possession have depicted innocent people becoming possessed involuntarily. But how close is this to widely held beliefs about possession?...

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I know that the reason why you feel stuck is because every time you try to step forward, something pushes you back. Every time you make...

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I keep buying long, flowy dresses because I want to be the person who wears long, flowy dresses. I don’t exactly have the kind of life...

If You Aren’t Having Fun In Your 20s, You’re Doing Something Very, Very Right

As you’re growing up, you imagine your 20s as this mystical time of life, the “best years,” you’re told by those who have already passed through...