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These Are The 6 Zodiac Signs Who Are Most Likely To Ghost You

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I Hope You Don’t Just Happen To Anyone

Hey you, I hope you don’t just happen to anyone. I hope you happen to someone who appreciates your magic, someone who wants someone exactly like you...

Here’s To The Day You Start Living

I need you to promise me one thing. Actually, no. I need you to promise yourself one thing. Promise yourself that with every single cell that...

When He Makes You Feel Like You’re Just A Phase

How could you think you could touch fire and not get burned? I could ask myself the same. The night that we met, we agreed to turn the...

Ranking The Zodiac Signs By Who’s The Most Relaxed Partner To Who’s The Most...

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10 Female Characters From 80s Sitcoms That Influenced The Gay Man I Am Today

March is Women’s History month – a time specifically set aside to celebrate the superior sex. I think it should be every month, but nobody...

There And Back Again: Why I Gave Up Alcohol At 22

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How To Write A Personal Mission, Because Your Vision Will Become Your Reality

When it comes to building the life you want to live, most people try to design it backwards. Most people begin with what habits and routines they...

Life Will Be Good To You Soon, I Promise

One morning, one day very soon, you will wake up with that warm, cozy feeling deep down in the pit of your stomach; that nearly perfect,...

Ranking The Myers-Briggs Personality Types By Who’s The Most Relaxed Partner To Who’s The...

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You Will Find These Words When You Need To

Lean in closely to the words you are about to read. It is highly possible at least one sentence you need to see. Your heart will feel...

This Is For Every Woman Who Has Ever Doubted That She’s Able To Change...

I know that the reason why you feel stuck is because every time you try to step forward, something pushes you back. Every time you make...

You’re Not Going To Realize You’re Blossoming, But It’s Going To Happen Anyway

The truth is that you probably won’t recognize the moment you start to change yourself. You probably won’t know the day you meet someone who alters...

When You Are Being Your True Self Your Tribe, Your Money, And Your Love...

I know that you want to believe if you play the game right — if you make yourself more beautiful, if you exhaust every ounce of...

What My ‘New’ Zodiac Sign Made Me Realize About Astrology

With the start of every new month, one of the first things I do is check my horoscope for any foreshadowing on what to expect. While...

Here’s Exactly How Each Zodiac Sign Can Survive March’s Mercury Retrograde

Mercury goes retrograde on March 5th and will stay in retrograde until the 28th. We should all be used to this by now and the good...

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How you use my full name with such an infliction that I feel like some sort of celebrity or something. How you make me feel like...

Have Faith—There Is A Plan For All Of This

Have faith, there is a plan for all of this. You might feel the lowest you’ve ever felt. You may feel like the world is crashing down....

This Is The Horoscope You Need To Read For March, Based On Your Zodiac...

Aries: You are gearing up for your birthday season which is less than a month away. As you get ready to give Uranus the last hurrah,...

The Day You Stop Waiting For Them To Come Back Is The Day You...

They are not coming back. And the sooner you accept this, the quicker you will be able to gather the broken pieces of your heart and...

This Is How The Super Full Moon In Virgo Will Effect You, Based On...

The Full Moon in Virgo took place on February 19th, 2019. This Moon brought about much needed awareness into our lives that will impact us for...

I Don’t Have My Shit Together And I Hope I Never Will

We’re persuaded today that there are the three critical indigents to a destination of accomplishment, achievement, and fulfillment. They are, go to college, get a job,...

On Being Whoever You Want To Be

I keep buying long, flowy dresses because I want to be the person who wears long, flowy dresses. I don’t exactly have the kind of life...

Here’s How the March 2019 Mercury Retrograde Will Effect Your Zodiac Sign

Happy Astrological New Year, sky lovers! March is the time to get this party started, but prepare to add a beotch and a half to that guest...

This Is Who You’re Most Likely To Date, Based On Your Zodiac Element

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You Don’t Need A Fitzgerald Grant, You Need A Jake Ballard

Fitzgerald Grant, “aka” Fitz is incredibly dashing. He sweeps America’s favorite Gladiator, Olivia Pope, off her feet. He’s sexy, he’s smart, he says all the right...

On Emptiness So Heavy It Hurts

There is no more fingernails left to bite and no one around to fuck. Stepping into the shower, I turn the dial to an unholy temperature. A normal...

These Are The 6 Signs Who Are Most Likely To Get Back Together With...

You love with your entire being, Cancer, and from the moment you meet someone you’re falling for you just can’t help but picture what your future...

Five Little Ways To Honor Your Dreams This Year

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The Dos And Don’ts Of Being Ghosted

If you’ve never been ghosted before, lucky you. Ghosting is…how do I describe this…ghosting is…horrible! It’s not limited to this definition but basically, it’s when you’ve been dating...

These Are The 6 Zodiac Signs Who Fall In Love The Easiest

You’re in love with love and as such, falling in love just feels so natural to you. You see the best in people and tend to...

How To Explore New Orleans As A Millennial

Get there a few days early, alone. Wander down Frenchman Street at night and loiter on the sidewalk listening to jazz outside of Vaso, Blue Nile,...

Things I Wish Someone Told Me In High School

I spent six years learning to be the perfect, proper young woman I was told I would always grow up to become. The desire to conform...

There’s One Key Difference Between Relationships That Last And Ones That Don’t

In your lifetime, you’re going to be in many different relationships. There will be more than one occasion in which you think you’ve met your soulmate. They’ll...

This Is What It Means To Heal Completely, Because It’s Not About Going Back...

When something scares us but we never get over that fear, we become traumatized. When we’re traumatized, our lives start reflecting that. We begin restricting and isolating....

How You Act In The Face Of What You Can’t Control Determines Whether You’re...

The world wants you to think that there’s very little you can control. There’s a dark part of your psyche that is dependent on believing this,...

A Story About Processing That You’re Gone

Shattered In one moment, in one instance, everything I have ever know was completely gone. Sitting on the couch smiling and laughing, followed by a cataclysmic series...

8 Uncomfortable Things You Need To Realize If You’ve Been Exaggerating Your Role In...

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This Is The Year You Start Feeling Again, However Slowly It Happens

When something in your life hurts you, when you get your hopes dashed and dreams broken and plans don’t unfold the way you imagined, you don’t...

You Don’t Walk Away When You Run Out Of Love, You Walk When You...

The only parts of the past that still exist are the ones that we carry with us. The only parts that are still real are the...

10 Things People With Depression Do That May Seem Like ‘Just Being Sad And...

Depression is a monster. I was originally going to go into more detail with that statement, but I don’t feel that there needs to be anything...

Not A Casual Love Kind Of Girl

You’re not a casual love kind of girl. There’s nothing casual about love to you. Casual means you can just flip a switch on love and turn...

This Is How Each Zodiac Sign Can Be Better In Relationships

Though you fear commitment when you do make the decision to enter a relationship you tend to want to rush things. You should give the relationship...

I Did Not Want To Forget You, I Did Not Want To Forget Us

There is a certain ambiance in the air. I can’t pinpoint it exactly. I can’t articulate with words what I know it to be. There is...

This Is What To Channel From The New Moon In Aquarius Based On Your...

It feels like deja vu once again with the New Moon in the sign of Aquarius. Typical themes will involve focusing on the self and letting...

A Non-Comprehensive List of Things You Never Understood About Me

Self-hatred doesn’t have an outward sign. I am thin, white, female, neither too butch or too femme, and my illness can be hidden away under strategic...

Loving You Is A Privilege That Won’t Always Be Mine

I was spritzing on some Rose 31 by Le Labo, a gift my ex bought me, when it struck me—since a good scent always strikes some...

Dear You, Dear Somebody, Come Back

Dear You, This is a letter I will never send or let you read. So let me try this again. Dear Somebody, I need you to love me with...

The Beauty In The Chaos

It’s a weird feeling sitting alone in my empty house, teetering at the end of a memory. I watched the new tenants move in, looking around...

What Is Your White Privilege?

This is a question every white person needs to ask themselves. If you haven’t before, then now is the time. If you’ve been living under a rock,...

How To Fall Out Of Love With Someone Who Doesn’t Love You Back

Love never starts in remarkable ways. It’s the ability to make it last that renders its beauty. I met him and saw ordinariness. That is not the love stories...

An Open Letter To The Ones Who Did Not Choose Me

I always know something was left unsaid when the insomnia kicks in. Days in a row of waking up between 2 and 3AM. My mouth dry...

December With You, January Without You

My body fights sleep. Waking up with your name on my tongue. These dark days between the holidays spent stagnant and silent. Friends are out of...

What It Means To Be An Introvert With Depression

What’s wrong with you? Why aren’t you smiling more? Why aren’t you talking? Why aren’t you having fun? Is everything okay? Did something happen? Why can’t...

Love Is Not Always Convenient

I think we have this huge misconception about what love is what love is not. Current day we are so determined for everything in our lives...

White Hoods Are Making A Comeback In The Form Of Red Hats

Since the dawn of civilization, humans have covered themselves with all manner of things, from leaves to animal skins. What we wear has come to represent...

45 Things To Be Thankful For Right Now

1. The fact that you are here. You are here right now. You are capable of changing your life at any given moment. 2. The quiet seconds,...

Why You Keep Falling For Guys Who Hurt You, Based On Your Love Language

If you’re dating without knowledge of your love language, you’re really doing yourself a disservice. I’m obviously no expert in love languages, but I have at least...

What It’s Like Growing Up With An Agoraphobic Parent

I was born on February 11th, and I’ve got to say, I often regret it. My parents spent an entire year trying to have me—they read...

A Brief History Of All The Times You Didn’t Show Up

Ümit Bulut / Unsplash The earliest memory I have is of the day you left. I was four. It was nearly five years later before I saw you...

To The Boy Who Was Once Innocent

Seven years have passed since your shelter was taken apart, piece by piece. I’m writing to you what I wish would have been said to me...

7 Things to Remember When It Seems Like Everyone Around You Is Settling

It’s okay to stay single. It’s okay to respect yourself enough not to fall into a relationship. And it’s perfectly normal to feel left out when...

Stay Single Until You Find Someone Who Chases You

Stay single until you find someone who chases you. Stay single until the person you find, you didn’t go out looking for because the best love in...

I’m Getting Way Too Good At Living Alone

When I was in my twenties, the thing I wanted most in life was to be in a serious, committed relationship that would culminate in living...

The Silent Struggle Of Postpartum Depression

During pregnancy, we spend our time daydreaming about how amazing we are going to be at this parenting thing. We imagine all of the other moms oohing...

All The Things I’ve Left At The Bottom Of A Bottle

Trigger warning: abuse, drugs and alcohol When that first sip of beer caressed my lips and cascaded down my throat at the lovely age of eight, I...

How To Rediscover Who You Are After A Brutal Breakup

I’ve often pondered: When it comes to breakups, what is the right way to move on? Clean break or remain friends? Rebound or take time to yourself?...

I Let Myself Think About You Today

I’m not really sure how it happened. I must have seen something that reminded me of you, or maybe passed by someplace we went before. Regardless,...

50 Small (But Big) Changes To Become An Ultimately Happier You

1. Set your alarm 15 minutes earlier. Select to wake up to your favorite song. Enjoy your coffee or tea in a special mug. This sets...

This Is How You Know You’re Falling In Love Based On Your Zodiac Sign

Aries: March 21st-April 19th You know you’re falling in love when you can’t seem to hold your feelings for them back; you can’t help but tell them...

If You Want To Change Your Reality, You’re Going To Need To Be Unrealistic

If you really want to have a different life, you are going to have to be able to see beyond your life. Before you can change your...

The Love Of Your Life, Dream Job And Perfect City Will All Make You...

Figuring out whether or not something is truly right for you isn’t always an intuitive process. Sometimes, the things you’re meant for will scare you. Sometimes, they’ll...

My Soulmate Lives One Thousand Miles Away

It doesn’t get easier. You don’t get used to it. I sit in my dark room and stare into the seemingly-infinite, lonely darkness in front of me...

Mary, Fucking Mary | Thought Catalog

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Because Of My Loneliness | Thought Catalog

Because of my loneliness, I met you. I couldn’t bear the deafening sound of my own heart breaking, so I looked to you to cover my ears....

This Is The Love Story I Am In

The one in which I’m constantly falling in love with the kindness of strangers. Some of who are here for a season to teach me a...

In My Phone Live Dreams Of Another Place

I spend the greater half of my time looking at real estate. In between meetings, in waiting rooms, on conference calls. I’m not in the market...

What You’ve Been Doing Vs. What You Need To Do To Move On Based...

Aries: March 21st-April 19th What you’ve been doing: Flirting with and going on dates with anyone and everyone who catches your eye, trying to convince yourself that...

Nothing Feels “Right” At The Beginning, So Stop Believing Happiness Is Instantaneous

The biggest myth about happiness is not that it is something you achieve outside of yourself. It is the idea that it is something you can...

10 Seemingly Unimportant Things That Make Your Relationship That Much Stronger

1. Deep Friendship. Being in a relationship means you two have a friendship that you do not have with other people. Sure, there’s your best friend....

January 2019 Full Moon In Leo: Here’s To Moving Forward

There is a full moon in the sign of Leo on January 21, 2019. Not only is this a blood moon, but also a lunar eclipse....

17 Harsh One-Sentence Truths That All Idealists Need To Consider

1. For as long as human beings continue to seek pleasure and gain and operate in survival mode, inequality will still exist because true and absolute equality...

This Is How Your Ego Ultimately Effects You Based On Your Zodiac Sign

The ego is necessary in order to thrive and survive in a world where everyone wants to put their peers down. It is no surprise that...

If You Aren’t Willing To Start Today, You Aren’t Ready To Change Your Life

Have you ever met someone who wanted to change their eating habits, but before doing so committed to having one day or weekend in which they...

What You’ve Been Doing Vs. What You Need To Do To Finally Move On,...

ENFP What you’ve been doing: curling up in a ball, hiding from the world for a couple days, then emerging to make as many reckless/exciting/most likely regrettable...

How To Listen To Your Gut Without Getting Scared Of The Future

One of the most essential tenets of modern wisdom is the idea that, deep down, you know the truth about everything in your life and, by...

Please, Don’t Go Through The Pain All By Yourself

I posted a carefully edited black and white photo on Instagram the other day of me smiling and carefree, holding my puppy in my arms. The...

A Short List Of Lies I Refuse To Believe About Myself

1. I am not enough. “Enough” is a matter of perception. It’s incredibly easy to believe that the rest of the world is surpassing us, that everyone else...

50 Little Ways To Be A Happier You Every Single Day

1. Wake up ten minutes earlier than you normally do and drink your coffee (or tea) a little more slowly than usual. 2. Write one paragraph in...

Stay Single Until The Person You Like The Most Is You

Stay single until the person you like the most is you. Until you learn to love yourself. Stay single until you are comfortable in your own...

10 Easily Missed Signs You’re Leading A Happy And Healthy Life

1. You’re not as comfortable right now as you wish you were. It’s okay to be uncomfortable. It’s okay to demand more from yourself. That’s part...

8 Things I Wish I Would’ve Known Before Getting Into A Labelless Relationship

CAUTION: DO NOT READ THIS ARTICLE ANYWHERE NEAR THE PERSON YOU’RE THINKING ABOUT BASED ON THIS TITLE UNLESS YOU’RE READY TO WALK AWAY RIGHT NOW… Labelless love....

These Are The 6 Zodiac Signs Who Have The Hardest Time Leaving A Relationship

You have such a heart of gold Pisces, and everyone knows it. You also have a tendency to idealize your partner and see only their best...

7 Powerful Attitudes You Must Have In Order To Achieve Any Change

Do you know what’s the best time of the year to make changes and new beginnings? Any time you are up to it, really! Although January...

Here’s The Brutally Honest Truth: I Don’t Need You Anymore

I cannot tell you how many conversations I start on a regular basis with the phrase, “I read this thing…” with my family, my friends, my...

Ranking The Myers-Briggs Personality Types On Who Loves The Hardest And Leaves The Easiest

1. ENFJ ENFJs are very all in right from the start when it comes to their relationships, consistently doing whatever they can to bond with their partner...

12 Ways To Be Good To Yourself This Year And Every Year After

1. Be mindful of what you think, feel, and want. It’s important to recognize that we all hold selfish needs and desires inside, but it’s critical...

In 2019, Stop Saying No To Love

It’s easy to say no to love. It’s easy to keep a guard up, to push people away when they start to get close and to stay...

A Small Compilation Of Gross Things Men Have Said To Me In My Twenty...

A man tells me, Darling, if you’re gonna wear that pretty red lipstick, you should at least smile for me. A man twice my age asks,...

Here’s The Most Harrowing Unsolved Murder From Every State

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How To Sell Your Wedding Dress

Understand that your engagement is over. You’ve packed up everything you own into your car. You and your ex-fiancé go to the leasing office to sign...

Just Another Casual Existential Crisis

I am inspecting myself in the mirror after my pee. I used to daydream about clothes like this, business casual, paralegal-type pinstripe suits and skirts and...

A Short List Of Things I Would Have Told You If You Would’ve Just...

1. My last name. I only learned yours because I saw your work I.D. and key card inside your truck when you were dropping me off...

16 Things People Don’t Realize You’re Doing Because You Haven’t Mastered Loving Yourself Quite...

1. Loving yourself based on a set of conditions you have to meet You set conditional requirements for yourself and only feel like you love yourself when...

32 Microshifts You Can Start Doing Today To Transform Your 2019

Chances are, every time you’ve tried to make a change in your life, you attempted to force a breakthrough. You decided you were going to make...

This Is Where You Need To Focus And Invest Yourself In 2019, Based On...

Aries – Let go and let things be. This is your moment to rise up from the flames and take on every single challenge that comes your...

I Wish There Wasn’t A Reason To Be Sitting Here Writing This About You

It’s 7 pm on a Sunday night and I’m already drunk. Fingerprints clouding the glass surface of the wine glass I’m gripping so affectionately. Box of...

19 Things To Do More Of In 2019

1. Practice gratitude. Somehow, we’ve cultivated habits of practicing judgment, jealousy or self-pity. Imagine if you spent that time telling yourself one thing you’re grateful for...

19 Ways To Make 2019 Your Best Year Ever

Before stepping into the New Year, remind yourself to forgive the mistakes and let go of any regrets from the past year and allow yourself to...

19 Resolutions The Empowered You Needs In 2019

1. Be heard. There’s a voracious firecracker living in all of us, but for some, the idea of being heard rather than just seen comes easier than...

This Year, I Finally Let You Go

This year, I finally let you go. If someone had told me that a year ago, I would have been thoroughly convinced that our time wasn’t up...

12 Things It’s Okay That You Mistook For Love

1. Sympathy. It’s not your fault that you fell for someone who listened to you and actually cared. That doesn’t happen often in this self-obsessed, busy world....

19 Things I Promise To Do For Myself In 2019

1. To let go of the toxic people/habits in my life It’s hard to admit when a situation, habit, or even person has become a toxic presence...

Meet Me In January | Thought Catalog

It’s that time of the year again to do some reflection. A year of exploration and letting go. It has been such a fluctuating year of...

Exactly What Each Zodiac Sign Learned In 2018 And How They Can Utilize That...

As each year passes by, we are faced with complex challenges and life-changing opportunities. So, it should come as no surprise that 2019 will be full...

This Is How You Bring Out The Best In People, Based On Your Zodiac...

Aries (March 21- April 19) You’re outspoken, loud, and fearless. You bring out the confidence in someone by showing them to not care what anybody thinks, to fully...

Waking Up Driving And Other Hidden Benefits Of Taking Ambien

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