It’s not uncommon for men and women to have fetishes. More common ones include a love of hands or feet, girls in yoga pants, or guys who wear glasses. Even BDSM and role play has made its way into the common knowledge of sexual fantasies.

So what about the weird and wacky fetishes? Well, there are some odd ones out there, but one that is perhaps surprising to many women is men who like their ladies large. And I mean really large.

Yes, having a fat fetish is more common than you’d think, and a young woman named Alex reveals what it was like to be in a relationship with one.

Alex was just 18 years old when she first met John at a Starbucks where she worked. The frequent customer was a skinny 25-year-old with a mop of brown hair and bright blue eyes. He was studying for a degree in Science at the local university and, despite the seven year age difference, fell madly in love with Alex.

The two quickly became inseparable, but a few months into the relationship, Alex started receiving signals that John might have a fetish. She says the couple had a conversation about what they each find sexy. John told her he liked curvy women. Alex explains:

“At the time, I was 65 kilos [140 lbs] and 173 cm tall. However, I wasn’t skinny. I had always had a rounded bottom and decent sized C cup breasts. Then he explained that not only did he like curvy women, but he also loved the act of making them curvier.”

Alex says she never had any body issues previously and didn’t think John’s comments were cause for alarm. “Great, I can eat whatever I want, and he’s still going to find me attractive,” she thought.

At first it was just encouraging sweets, she claims. If the pair went to dinner, he’d insist on having dessert. If they cooked at home, Alex’s portions would be large and he often gave her seconds.